Beautiful Things Don’t Ask for Attention & So Shouldn’t You

Renuka Gavrani
6 min readJan 30, 2023

There is something wrong, a common misfortune living in all of us. A burning desire to grab everyone’s attention in the room.

And why not?

Americans have done a great job of shifting our attention from character values to communication skills. It started way before Dale Carnegie’s book, How to Win Friends & Influence People. We birthed an era where we have to apply hacks or techniques to win friends or manipulate people to find us attractive.

Look around you or within you, and you will find how hard people are trying to get attention. No one gives a second thought to what they think of themselves but rather what others would think of them. Result?

We feel ashamed to like certain hobbies that are not ‘cool.’ We learn to conceal our true selves under the mask of a big smile, well-accepted manners, and claiming to like things that everyone finds amusing. We laugh at jokes that we don’t find funny. We wear clothes that make us uncomfortable. We redesign our bodies and paint our souls in the colors of society.

I am not a great writer nor English is my first language so I cannot explain the excruciating pain that aches my little heart whenever I unconsciously do things just to fit in.

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Renuka Gavrani

I talk about slow & Intentional living - taking you closer to a happy life. I am a published author of the book 'The Art of Being Alone': https://a.co/d/531JIFq