How I Stopped Comparing Myself to Others After 10 Years; How You Can Too

For as long as I can remember, I have compared myself to others, wishing hard to be like them, have hair like that girl in my class, a beautiful smile like my cousin, skin tone like my sister, eyes like my neighbor’s daughter, intelligence like the top student of the class, and the ability to talk with people like every extrovert.

For a long time in my life, I looked at myself with eyes of my own but with the perspective of others about me. But I believe we don’t become our enemies because it’s fun. There can be many reasons why you started comparing yourself for the very first time and why you never stopped.

As for me, when I was a child, everyone used to tease me for my skin color. I remember not showing my teeth in childhood pictures because I thought my smile was not good (though I love it now and I cannot stop myself from showing all my teeth and brightening up the picture)

If I am being honest, I still do compare myself to others but bad habits are not that easy to abandon. However, a lot has changed for me in the past 3–4 years especially since I started observing the world and myself rather than just accepting others’ definitions of things.

I know how it feels like to feel that you are not enough or if you were a little more beautiful…