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How To Increase Your Self-Confidence That You Need to Win in Life
What does self-confidence really mean to you? We, humans, are creative artists. Not even a single thought crosses our mind without a proper picture, doesn’t it?
However, we seem to use this power of thinking and imagining against ourselves. For example, when I asked you how you imagine self-confidence, you must have imagined a physically fit, utterly beautiful, insanely intelligent person who seems to spray magic in the air which attracts people towards him. Such a person who can speak whatever comes to his mind with enough authority in voice and power in eyes that people want to talk to him again and again. (Excuse me, if I exaggerate a little but I am extra imaginary)
Now, you also crave such self-confidence that can set you apart from the public, don’t you?
But before we start, let’s do a quick recap of why in the first place you lack self-confidence because obviously, something happened that changed you or rather manipulated you to believe that you lack self-confidence.
I believe there are two stages of life when your behavior and thinking pattern are shaped which are,
0 to 12 when you are still in school and
13 to 17 when you go through a lot of internal and external changes.
The initial years are 0 to 12 is the time when you start with the neutral stage, you don’t know anything about intelligence, or failure yet you are filled with possibilities, dreams, and excitement. However, the moment you start interacting with people in school, or neighborhood, you start getting judged based on your grades, your ability to mix up with people, and so on. Now, if you are a student who scores good grades, you get the tag of intelligent, if you are a student who barely gets past the class, you are given the tag of ‘failure’ and if you are a student who is intelligent and also good with people, you are the KING/QUEEN of the world.
Now, when you see how people of your age are getting special attention, you start finding the reasons why you are not getting the same attention. And you keep finding these reasons ‘why you are not good enough to be treated the same way until you finally lose the essence of ‘who you are’
