I Decided To Stop Being a ‘Nice Girl’ & So Should You (Boys, You too Stop BEING NICE)

What do I mean when I say I stopped being NICE or you should too?

Do I mean to stop being helpful, supportive, and kind to people? Or

Do I mean stop being harsh, unkind, discouraging, adjusting, and negative to yourself?

Hey, my name is Renuka and

I didn’t know who I am or what I want or what makes me happy or what disturbs my peace or what boundaries mean until a few months ago as that’s when I asked myself, WHO IS RENUKA anyway?

When I was a little kid, I wasn’t as ‘beautiful’ as society expects a kid to be. So, I was always compared and given fake sympathy. I wasn’t good at studies, so my relatives compared me to my other cousins. All of this led to lower self-esteem.

And I knew that if I want to win people’s hearts, I have to be NICE to them.

Now, when I look back in time, all I can see is an under-confident girl who:

a) Adjusts so that no one else goes through any trouble

b) Say YES to everything so that people don’t get upset

c) Smile it out even when people were making fun of her or discouraging her as that’s what nice girls do