I Gave Up the Need to Be Understood by People & It Changed My Life (It Hurts Sometimes though)

We all have a need deep inside us — a need to be understood. I know I am guilty of this and you are too or why else would you click on this blog?

After reading, watching, and listening to tons of advice on why you shouldn’t give a damn about what people think of you, I realized none of that advice or hacks work in real life. You may feel good and empowered for the time being but when you step into reality and someone misjudges you, you feel the itch to explain yourself. Or if you are like me, you would keep creating scenarios in your mind on ‘how great it would have been if only people could understand your little heart’

I have spent the majority of my school life trying to fit in. As embarrassed and pathetic as I feel while writing, it is 100% true. I never really went along with anyone in my school. Everyone was a part of a group and I wanted to belong as well. And even after trying hard, I couldn’t blend in.

In the initial few months of college, I tried to blend in with my roommate and her friend so that we can form a group of three girls. I won this time or so I thought. I pretended to like things that I usually hate and say things that I didn’t mean. And when I couldn’t pretend anymore, I said to my roommate that I don’t like…