No FRIENDS & Alone; How Do I Still Live Happily & You Can too

How to be Alone; No Friends And Still Be More Than Happy:

1. Change Your Playlist:

Your playlist tells a lot about your current mood and also sets your mood in its own style.

2. Search for Yourself:

If I ask you, who are you? What would be your answer?

3. Analyze the Difference Between Alone and Lonely:

Growing up, I was scared of being alone or even thinking about the feeling of being left behind. However, as I grew up, I started embracing solitude.

  • Stop feeling pity for yourself. You are not bad nor are you some kind of alien. You are just someone like me who doesn’t have friends or maybe you don’t like having friends. So, stop feeling pity for yourself because, darling, you are way more than that.
  • Stop self-sabotaging. Most of the time when we are alone, we start thinking about all the mistakes we made, all the weaknesses we have, and all the scars we have in our past and this continues until we finally drag ourselves into such a dark place where even breathing seems impossible. So, stop it! Stop comparing yourself and accusing yourself.

4. Change Your Perspective on Friendship:

One of my all-time favorite TV shows is F.R.I.E.N.D.S and I have watched it almost 4 times on loop. I watch it when I have lunch, tea, dinner, or when I am bored. I even own a bunch of F.R.I.E.N.D.S merchandise like a coffee mug, a diary, a t-shirt, and again a coffee mug (okay, 2)

  1. Your friends should be available 24/7
  2. Every friendship is permanent
  3. Your friends are your lifeline
  4. No matter what your friends do to you, Forgive them
  5. Share everything with your friends

5. Your Journal & You; Best Friends for Life:

If you can accept the simple fact that not everyone you meet is going to stay, you will never be sad. We think that our friendship or any relationship that we have should last till eternity but the reality is, people aren’t animals who you can cage and lock. People are meant to set FREE.


All these steps that I just mentioned are not some magic tricks that you can use and improve your life. It took me almost a year to realize that I have got me, I need to work on myself, know me, be in love with and make myself happy. It might take time but it will be worth it to finally be alone yet not lonely and no friends yet so happy that your reality starts feeling like a fairyland.



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Renuka Gavrani

Renuka Gavrani

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