These 2 Minimalistic Habits Are Changing My Life & Making Me Happier; Why You Should Adopt These Too
I never thought of becoming minimalistic. NEVER!
I had a belief that I work so hard, sacrifice so much for my work and deal with failures so that I can have everything I set my eyes on. I can buy anything my heart desires. After all, if you cannot have what you want then why do you work so hard? Just have a normal paying job and that will enable you not to buy everything that you want, right?
Well, I still believe that you should work hard and earn enough money to afford a comfortable living for yourself and for the people you love.
However, my mindset of buying everything that I want transformed into BUYING WHAT I TRULY WANT.
Now, what does that mean?
To me, minimalism is not about getting rid of everything you own, and living like a monk. No, that’s not what minimalism is nor can I ever get rid of everything that I bought with a big heart.
Then what do I mean?
Well, minimalism to me is a lifestyle that makes you live your life mindfully rather than collecting everything you like and making your surroundings a junkyard.
In simple words, the human mind is never satisfied. We always want something to be happy. And as we are now more open to the world via social media, we have lost the key to living a satisfied and mindful life.
For example: Let’s say you are completely happy at this moment. Though as soon as you open Instagram and see everyone is having the latest Iphone in hand, you feel, ‘If only I had this new iPhone, I would be so happy’
Did you notice something?
You were completely happy but then you handed over the key of your happiness to a materialistic possession, an iPhone. Now, you wouldn’t be happy until either you get the iPhone or demand your key back (your choice to be happy)
Hence, minimalism is just about having your key to happiness and a fulfilled life always with you.
To tell the truth, I was a minimalist since childhood but with the wrong direction in my mind.
What do I mean by that?
Okay, so I feel guilty to even write this but I believe a lot of people make a similar mistake while walking on the path of minimalism.
I used to check the price of everything to see if it was overpriced but when it came to shopping or just buying any random thing I see on social media, I used to spend money like water.
I was trying to restrict myself from spending on experiences like going out with friends or buying books but I was freely spending the money on clothes or stupid things that I wondered at the end, ‘WHAT WAS I THINKING WHILE BUYING THIS?”
But, enough is enough!
I realized that I am on the wrong path and if I keep walking down the line like this, my bank account will always be empty, I will be frustrated, and I wouldn’t have any worth remembering experiences.
So, what did I do?
I became minimalistic with clarity of what I wanted to spend my money on and what things that don’t make sense to me.
Today, I want to share a sneak peek from that list and tell you the 2 minimalistic habits that transformed me:
1. Boycott Shopping:
Okay, I accept, that boycott is a strong word but I had to use it for myself. I was never the kind of girl who spend a lot of money on clothes but I was definitely a stupid girl who stuff her wardrobe with clothes that are JUST trendy but made me uncomfortable. Result?
I always looked at other girls on social media who had clothes that I wanted and then saw my collection and then I used to grow jealous and sad. Jealous of other girls who had such stylish yet comfortable clothes and sad because I spent my hard-earned money on clothes that I am never going to touch.
A year ago, when I decided to be minimalistic, I decided to boycott shopping for a year.
It’s been a year and 5 days since I didn’t buy any cloth. Yes, you heard that right. I spent the past 1.5 years at home so clearly, I didn’t need any new clothes. I stay at home mostly as I am no longer in touch with any of my friends except 2 friends shifted to another town, hence, no outing and no need for new clothes. Though I certainly go out with myself since I have enough clothes and I personally know I am on a boycott shopping, I don’t mind wearing the same old jeans everywhere.
In the initial few months, it was really tough to resist buying new clothes because obviously, I am active on Instagram and so I always come across a bunch of ads and influencers that used to attract me like a magnet.
Truth be told, after the initial few months, it stopped bothering me altogether as to who is wearing what and what would be like to wear the similar top as this influencer is wearing.
After a point of time, I became so much happier and more satisfied with my decision of not buying any new cloth that till today, I ask myself, do I really need this?
Yesterday when I finally bought two tops to record YouTube videos for my channel (yes, I am starting on YouTube soon), I didn’t just buy it randomly. I first asked myself, would I feel comfortable in this top? And is this the kind of style I want to adopt?
My wardrobe now looks much better, I feel comfortable in what I wear and most importantly, I no longer have not-needed trendy clothes. In fact, I don’t care about trends at all now. If it doesn’t make me feel comfortable, I am not buying it. If this is not the kind of style I want to adopt, I am not eyeing on it.
This minimalistic habit made me realize that I actually don’t need new clothes to be happy, to live, or to look good.
Now, I wouldn’t ask you to boycott shopping for new clothes as maybe you are in school, college, or work where you have to present yourself in a more professional way. But I will definitely urge you to be more mindful while shopping.
Don’t just buy anything because it’s trendy, hot, or available at a discount. Ask yourself, do I really want this? Will I look good and feel comfortable in this?
If the answer is yes, bingo! Go ahead. If the answer is no, just take a step back.
2. Invest in Me:
Although, I decided to limit my expenditure, this time in the right direction. So, after taking the decision not to shop for clothes mindlessly, I decided to invest in myself.
Quick note: I never say spend; I always say invest when it comes to buying things that are for my growth.
Now, what do I mean by investing in myself?
Investing in myself simply means buying courses, books, and things like these that make me a better person and help me achieve my true potential.
So, I invested in 2-3 courses that I thought were going to help me grow, I invested in the SkillShare subscription, and the platforms like these that make knowledge easily available to me.
In the last 2 years, I bought almost 100 books and read almost all of them. When I realized that now, reading has become a daily habit and I would love to read more and more books, I bought a kindle paperwhite too so that books are easily accessible to me with just a click. And I am so happy that I bought a kindle for myself.
How did it help me?
By investing in books and kindle, I grew my Instagram page from 0 to 51k. Yes, sounds crazy right? The habit of reading books helped me to easily create the branches of great habits like exercise, journalling, meditating, minimalism, and the like.
I cannot stress enough how not shopping mindlessly and investing in myself has changed my life. If you learn just one thing from this blog then learn the power of investing in yourself and all other things will follow you. I hope you become more mindful of your wants, thus be happy and learn to invest in yourself.
Also, I have published another blog on HOW THIS BOOK TAUGHT ME HOW TO GO BEYOND YOUR MIND so if you are suffering from depression, anxiety, negative self-talk, and overthinking then check it out.