Why I Love Living a Boring Life & How It’s Changing My Life
I am Renuka and I am in my early twenties. Yes, an age where all the motivational quotes about life, and society force you to live a wild life, travel around the world, go to as many pubs/bars as possible, have a hot date, and ENJOY life.
Popular TV shows and movies show how a young girl with big ambitions falls in love with a handsome man and eventually they end up living a perfect life. A life worth making a movie on.
Whereas I have never been in a romantic relationship. And even if I were, I know things wouldn’t have been so flowery and cute as we see in movies. But does that mean, I am not living the best life if I don’t have a partner to make me feel loved or whatever the shit people throw at us?
Or the other day I was listening to one of my favorite 90’s songs with a cup of tea in hand and looking out of the window to feel the pleasant monsoon season, I felt completely happy. But then I started scrolling through social media, and came across influencers who are highlighting the value of wearing the nicest clothes, following the trend, traveling every month, eating the food that looks more beautiful than your face and God knows what not.
In fact, everywhere you look, you will come to a bunch of advertisements that encourage you to buy the new luxurious car, have the latest iPhone in hand, eat at the new giant resort, or go on a vacation to live the life you are destined for.
But there is one question that often jumps inside my head and makes me wonder,
‘IS LIVING A NORMAL LIFE DOESN’T WORTH LIVING?”
Truth be told, I believe in romanticizing life, making things a little better than they are supposed to be, and feeling the love all around me, and I like to think that I am in a movie playing the lead character.
However, at the same time, I don’t like to do or have things just because everyone has or do it.
For example; every single day, the first thing I do in the morning is express gratitude and do a workout, then get ready in good clothes so that I feel ready for the new day. But I haven’t bought any new cloth for the past 1 year. Yes, you heard that right. I am a girl and one of the things that I hate is shopping.
Now, does that mean I should be labeled as the boring girl or not-so-cool girl?
So, what do I want to be if not a cool girl, and what do I really mean when I say I love living a boring and ordinary life?
Society likes to label normal day-to-day life activities as boring. No movie, no social media influencer, and no advertisement show what you and I go through. And that’s why all those glorified lifestyles where everything seems perfect attract us all.
As I mentioned earlier, a person in her twenties is supposed to live a wild, adventurous, actionable life but I am the kind of person who would choose the peace of my home, the beauty of my garden, the stillness of morning tea, the soothing voice of my favorite singers, talking about random things with my mother, going to a friend’s home with a flower, and dining in with people I love at my home.
And honestly, I enjoy and love all these normal activities as much as society labels other activities like dancing drunk on weekends as fun and exciting.
My daily routine is neither extraordinary nor adventurous and looks exactly the same yet I look forward to every day doing what I love, being with people I love, listening to my favorite songs, having my morning tea, going on an evening walk, and dive into one of my hobbies like calligraphy.
Now, most people confuse it but I don’t mean that living an ordinary life means abandoning your dreams or leaving everything behind to become a monk.
No, that’s not what I would ever want.
In fact, I am a big-time dreamer and I have the courage to make all those dreams come true too. I dream about exploring Edinburgh someday, I dream about becoming one of the most loved writers someday and I also dream about being with my partner and enjoying an evening in Paris.
But all of these dreams now don’t come in my way to enjoy what I have at the moment. I am not in Edinburgh at this moment, I am living in some old town that doesn’t even have a single park yet I feel completely happy. I am not the most loved writer but I feel blessed to have all the people who shower love in the comment section of my blogs. I am single but I feel happy that at least I am not in a toxic relationship.
For the longest period of my life, I tried to be cool and bold and be bossy and adventurous and spend a lot of money just to show off. For a long period, I tried to be everything that society and social media expected, I tried to resist what I wanted because I think there is so much pressure about standing out from the crowd and living our best lives.
However, now that I am writing this article, I know that I am living my best life. My best life isn’t about dancing like a zombie on a song that I don’t understand just to get accepted. My best life is about using the power of my words and changing people’s mindsets around life. My best life isn’t about going to a popular vacation destination but it’s rather about decorating my room, my home so beautiful that I feel loved and cozy in here. My best life isn’t about spending money on expensive clothes but rather about making a lot of money and buying a comfortable lifestyle for my family and myself.
So, I ask you now,
WHAT IS YOUR BEST LIFE?
HOW DO YOU WANT TO LIVE A LIFE?
WHAT ARE YOUR DREAMS?
DO YOU LIKE HOW YOU ARE SPENDING YOUR LIFE TODAY?
DID YOU CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE TO LIVE THE KIND OF LIFE YOU HAVE NOW?
WOULD YOUR 10-YEAR-OLD VERSION LOVE WHAT YOU ARE DOING NOW?
WOULD YOUR FUTURE VERSION THANK YOU FOR CHOOSING YOUR PEACE OVER ANYTHING ELSE OR CURSE YOU FOR RUINING YOUR LIFE JUST TO BECOME COOL?
WOULD YOU LIKE YOU IF YOU MEET YOU?
You don’t have to answer immediately, take your time, take a screenshot of these questions if you want, and question yourself, WHAT KIND OF LIFE DO YOU WANT?
It’s not necessary that you fall into my category. Maybe you are completely fine and content with being cool (there is nothing wrong to be), but if you are not satisfied with the way you are living and you think your life revolves around what people expect you to be then take a pause and ask yourself WHAT CAN I CHANGE TO MAKE MY LIFE MINE?
I remember when I was trying to be like those cool people, I didn’t become cool. In fact, I lost myself somewhere in the rush. And honestly, I am still trying to find myself, I am still trying to reconnect with my 8-year-old version and I still look at past version and think ‘What was I really trying to achieve that I lost what I was?”
The motive of this blog isn’t to question those who like living a fast life but the motive is to wake up those who are trying to copy others so that one day their life seems like some perfect movie.
If you like living a fast life, there is nothing wrong with it but if your inner self is craving a pause then stop rushing and try to find your peace with living an ordinary life.
I have even designed wallpaper for you, you can download it from here. Just enter the value as 0 and you will be able to download the wallpaper that will keep you focused on living a normal life that is YOURS.
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I hope you live your best life, the one that is chosen by you.